The Summer of Why the Hell Not?

It was there embedded in my own words-from my last post-and it took you all to find it for me. I’m grateful; thank you!

I’ve been why-the-hell-notting for a while. Getting “older” and (sometimes) wiser, finally has done it, along with advice from my brother-in-law. “Might as well enjoy all you can. If you’ve gotta pay for something, why the hell not? You can’t take it with ya!” There have also been too situations hitting too close that make you rethink why you do certain things.

Certain thing number one: being overly cautious. Relax, live, and have fun! I’m a natural worry-er which competes with being a warrior and chasing thrills. My kind of thrills don’t sucker punch you with adrenaline like bungee jumping or sky diving. It means not overthinking details. Just roll with it and see what happens.

Certain thing number two: I work hard and do my best to live below my means. However, if I want something, I save for it and do my best to stay out of debt. We’re now able to afford some activities that would’ve been impossible years ago. Might as well use some and enjoy it.

I’m not a huge country music fan, but come on, George Strait? I grew up in small town Texas, his songs on repeat in the back of the bus on our way to Friday night football games. I checked for tickets on concert day, finding reasonably priced floor tickets. I checked in with hubby and asked if he wanted to go. If not, I’d go solo.

Why the hell not?

We didn’t have Friday night plans. S. spent quality sibling time with E at his apartment.

Great concert!

Certain thing number three: Try it, you might like it. A friend invited me to play pickleball with her, her boys (who were patient with my lack of skills), and another close friend. Despite almost melting in the sun, we had a great time.

I don’t like FOMO, but I’ve also learned to enjoy JOMO (the joy of missing out), but often I miss out too much in favor of keeping up with household tasks. Uggg…

When hubby found tickets to a UT baseball game a couple of weeks ago, he pulled the same trick. Sunday night 8:00 start time. Ooh, that’s late.

My self-talk consisted of Nope. Just go. It’s summer break. No Sunday scaries. No waking up early for work on Monday.

We went. They won. I had a great time. We got home well after midnight.

There isn’t a big vacation planned this summer. However, I’ll see where why the hell not? takes us.

The Summer I Have Yet to Name

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Tuesday, June 9, 2026

It became a little tradition years ago–I don’t know how many–to name my summers as the school year wrapped up. One was The Summer of Reading where I read eight books while running around after my two year old. The only two of the eight I remember are Holes by Louis Sachar and On Death and Dying, by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. That was the summer Papá died of lung cancer less than two months after his 80th birthday. It was the one where I presented a summer PD session on teaching poetry. I got the phone call five minutes before my session began. I presented anyway, faking enthusiasm. Left the conference early and packed up to head home. I wrote his eulogy in the car on the way there while hubby drove. My first piece of writing done entirely in Spanish.

Another one was The Summer of Learning. I taught myself how to knit using a kid’s book from my middle school library. An old one, published in 1972, was better than newer instruction books. I figured a book written for kids should be foolproof. It was. I learned enough to say I know how to knit, but I never made anything more complicated than a baby’s hat or scarf. I should pick up my sticks again, if I can find them.

The Summer I Turned 40 took me on a girls trip to Las Vegas. The one where we were shushed on a 7:00 a.m. nonstop flight by some “crabby old lady” who was likely jealous of our youth. That’s what we told ourselves anyway. Seriously, who sleeps on the way to Vegas? And no, we didn’t have a single mimosa in our systems. We made a Top 10 list of things we wanted to do and hit 7 out of 10. Hit a couple of dollars on the nickel slots. Watched some shows. Discovered the cheapest place to buy alcohol was Walgreens while webwatched a guy open a bottle of vodka, pour it into a fountain drink cup, and walk right out without a fuss.

Then there was The Summer of Getting Things Done! We took a family vacation to Playa del Carmen and invited my mom as a bonus. When we arrived home from our trip, my parents volunteered to take the kids for a week so I could have some uninterrupted time to declutter and take a break. We packed the kids, S had just turned five and E was eleven, and took a little breather. That evening, hubby and I went to a movie. I mean, why not? Before the movie was over, I remember feeling cold. Summers are hot and while the movie theater is cool, it wasn’t that cold. I went to bed, shivering, piled on the blankets and slept. And slept. And slept. The next morning, it hit hubby. Flu. Must have caught it on the flight back. Nothing got done before it was time to go back to get the kids. Sigh…

I haven’t made time to think about this one. So far, I’m doing what I can to get out and do things rather than lament how quickly the summer goes and being stuck inside catching up on home projects that like to wait for summer. One week in, and I’m already bleary and brain-fogged, unable to figure out which day it is. It is Tuesday, I remind myself. I *tried* playing pickle ball this morning. First time. I may go again. Sunday, hubby suggested we go to the UT baseball game. It’s summer, why the hell not? (That’s been my attitude lately.) It was a late game which meant it ended even later. After midnight.

Photo of four books. Don't Call It Art 10 Ways to Create like a Kid Again by Austin Kleon. Anita de Monte Laughs Last A Novel by Xochitl Gonzalez. Unstuck a Writer's Guide 101 Doorways Leading from the Blank Page to the Last Page by Ramona Ausubel and a yellow Note Book for writing.

Last week consisted of shopping with S., a hike with friends, our 27th anniversary, and running around on countless errands. I managed to pop in for a week of virtual creativity workshops and a book launch by Austin Kleon, complete with an aesthetic book stack that would make any influencer, well, influence.

If I don’t name this summer, I’ll take it as it comes and figure it out later. No plan is a good plan.

As far as my book stack goes, I haven’t touched it since I snapped the picture.